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3 fingers: a simple practice to reduce conflict and increase connection with your partner

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3 fingers: a simple practice to reduce conflict and increase connection with your partner One of the most common “complaints” I hear from couples when they make an appointment for couple’s counselling or relationship therapy is how fed up they are  with all the negativity between them. Are you tired of bickering all the time? Are you a nag? Does it feel like conflict erupts out of nowhere… one minute things seem to be fine …

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Are you stressed and feeling in constant crisis mode?

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Are you stressed and feeling in constant crisis mode? Do you spend a lot of time worrying about things that are out of your control? Do you agonize over doing it just right so you can avoid conflict of disappointing others?  Perhaps you experience “crises” similar to the following examples: Your adult daughter calls you frantically from work. This is her first day at the new job and she was supposed to bring various signed …

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Improve your happiness quotient by learning this mantra

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Improve your happiness quotient by learning this mantra Do you worry about your loved ones  being disappointed, or feeling bad in some shape or form? Do try to save your children from feeling/experiencing pain and disappointment in life? Do you work hard to manage your loved one’s feelings so he or she doesn’t  get sick, relapse, become depressed again, get triggered into some other painful place? Are you the super attentive and kind friend always …

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Why understanding Mr. Duffy can save your marriage

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Why understanding Mr. Duffy can save your marriage or How to stop escalating relationship conflicts. When couples contact me for relationship counselling and marriage therapy, I invite them to fill out a personal info form where they are asked to name their short and long term goals for couple’s counselling. 80% of couples that seek out my services as a marriage and family therapist want to change how they communicate. More specifically they want to …

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Intimacy Coaching: 10 minutes to a deeper Intimate Connection

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Intimacy Coaching: 10 minutes to a deeper Intimate Connection In my Burnaby marriage therapy office, I often hear couples talk about their desire for a deeper intimate connection. Perhaps you can relate to this scenario: Sex is mostly good or okay, but not as great as it could be, because of time constraints and scheduling problems, lack of connection or underlying conflict. After years of working as a couples counsellor and somatic therapist, and from …

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Having difficulty asking for what you want? Get help from a baby.

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Having difficulty asking for what you want? Get help from a baby. When you were a baby you had no problem making your needs and desires known. You weren’t plagued with self- doubts! What changed? Many of my clients often seek counselling help for depression, relief from anxiety, or counselling support thru grief and loss. As we sift thru the layers, all problems usually have one underlying theme. Even in my work as marriage counsellor …

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