communication tips

The “J factor” almost destroyed them and everything they had built together

The “J factor” almost destroyed them and everything they had built together Jessica and Milo hadn’t talked for almost 2 weeks. Every time they tried to discuss something, things seemed to escalate into a fight. And lately, every time they had a fight, they were so fed up that they struggled to reconnect.  After their […]

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C O R A: How to get her to STOP NAGGING

C O R A: How to get her to STOP NAGGING Are you tired of your spouse nagging you? One of the areas couples often seek support in when they come to see me for marriage counselling or relationship therapy is communication. Frequently I hear him complain how he would like her to stop nagging

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How to shift from frustration and disappointment to hope and connection

How to shift from frustration and disappointment to hope and connection Are you familiar with the frustrating and discouraging feeling of getting stuck in a negative cycle or downward spiral together? After a while, you don’t know how to shift the pattern to recreate positive energy between each other. Sometimes you have an internal narrative which

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3 fingers: a simple practice to reduce conflict and increase connection with your partner

3 fingers: a simple practice to reduce conflict and increase connection with your partner One of the most common “complaints” I hear from couples when they make an appointment for couple’s counselling or relationship therapy is how fed up they are  with all the negativity between them. Are you tired of bickering all the time?

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Has Addiction damaged your self-esteem?

Has Addiction damaged your self-esteem? It doesn’t matter whether you love someone who is struggling with Addiction or if you are an Addict, part of the emotional roller coaster of living with Addiction is the impact it has on your self-esteem. As an Addictions Counsellor and Marriage therapist I often help couples navigate the journey

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When lovemaking feels like doing dishes in the dark OR The Art of Giving and Receiving Feedback in the Bedroom

When lovemaking feels like doing dishes in the dark OR The Art of Giving and Receiving Feedback in the Bedroom Imagine what it would feel like to do the dishes in the dark. You would sort of know what you’re doing because  you’re familiar with the layout of your kitchen sink  and the dish soap.

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Is scorekeeping eroding your marriage?

Is score keeping eroding your marriage? Have you felt hurt, disappointed, under appreciated or rejected in response to something your spouse said or did or didn’t do? And have you then gone ahead and adjusted your own behaviour based on that experience? Take the example of Quinn and Lara: Lara used to cook dinner for

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Improve your happiness quotient by learning this mantra

Improve your happiness quotient by learning this mantra Do you worry about your loved ones  being disappointed, or feeling bad in some shape or form? Do try to save your children from feeling/experiencing pain and disappointment in life? Do you work hard to manage your loved one’s feelings so he or she doesn’t  get sick,

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Is your sex life falling apart because of your libido?

Is your Sex Life falling apart because of your Libido? A common complaint couples share with me in my role  me as Burnaby relationship counsellor specializing in sex therapy and marriage counseling is a loss in libido. Usually these are long-term partners who are unhappy about the steady decline of passion and fire in their

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