sexual healing

How to make Valentine’s day not just ANOTHER painful reminder that you don’t have a partner

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How to make Valentine’s day not just ANOTHER painful reminder that you don’t have a partner Whether you’re feeling the loss of a not-too-distant breakup or you’re sitting in the longing of meeting that special someone,  you might be wishing that Valentine’s Day would have  come and gone already. Who needs a reminder of romantic couple love everywhere when it just brings back painful memories or makes you wonder what’s wrong with you… Why can’t …

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When lovemaking feels like doing dishes in the dark OR The Art of Giving and Receiving Feedback in the Bedroom

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When lovemaking feels like doing dishes in the dark OR The Art of Giving and Receiving Feedback in the Bedroom Imagine what it would feel like to do the dishes in the dark. You would sort of know what you’re doing because  you’re familiar with the layout of your kitchen sink  and the dish soap. But you probably wouldn’t be feeling very confident about the results.  If your goal was to have  satisfyingly clean dishes,  …

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Is your sex life falling apart because of your libido?

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Is your Sex Life falling apart because of your Libido? A common complaint couples share with me in my role  me as Burnaby relationship counsellor specializing in sex therapy and marriage counseling is a loss in libido. Usually these are long-term partners who are unhappy about the steady decline of passion and fire in their lovemaking. Often there is a higher desire partner and a lower desire partner and the self-diagnosis is a loss of …

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“Pillow Talk” Part 2: addressing orgasm difficulties

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“Pillow Talk” Part 2: addressing orgasm difficulties Have you ever faked an orgasm? If yes, please take a moment and acknowledge to yourself why you answered the famous question “Did you come?” with a lie. As a sex therapist and relationship counsellor I help couples address this questions and the potential surrounding anxieties in a way that is nurturing and supportive rather than anxiety provoking and frustrating. When the question “Did you come?” turns into …

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Do you enjoy sex more after a few drinks?

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Do you enjoy sex more after a few drinks? Do you feel less inhibited or does it seem like you can “let yourself go more” sexually after you’ve had a drink or two or three? As a marriage counsellor and relationship therapist I often hear couples share that over time their sex life has lost some of its initial “sparkle.” Recently one couple, let’s call them Mary and Tom,  shared that they had gotten into …

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Use this practice to enjoy a more satisfying sex life with your partner

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Use this practice to enjoy a more satisfying sex life with your partner As a somatic psychotherapist and marriage counsellor I offer intimacy coaching to couples who would like to deepen their intimate connection and want to share a more satisfying sex life. The number one practice and first, very simple step towards a more fulfilling sex life is body mind awareness. In a world that is incredibly fast-paced and almost everybody’s day is tightly …

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