positive affirmations

Are you unknowingly deducting happiness from your relationship?

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Are you unknowingly deducting happiness from your relationship? 80% of the couples that come to see me for relationship therapy or marriage counselling want to get back to their happy place. Once we dive a little bit into the couple’s history, I usually hear that things started out well. I’m sure you can relate to that. Most likely when you met your partner you were pretty happy with him or her. If you take a …

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Are you ready for more love in your relationship?

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Are you ready for more love in your relationship? As a marriage therapist and couples counselor, I regularly listen to couples share the pain they experience when they don’t get the love they want. Often, especially in the beginning of couples counselling, there can be a fair amount of focus  on how the pain is the other person’s fault, i.e. the result of what the other person is doing “wrong” or failing to do. Similar …

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How to stop the Power Struggle in your relationship

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How to stop the Power Struggle in your relationship When couples consider marriage counselling or relationship therapy, they’re often   gridlocked or stuck in a power struggle. A very common issue that surfaces in couple’s counselling sessions is “He or she is so controlling, I can’t stand it anymore.” Two things may be happening if you’re partner has a need to control, i.e. decide how things get done or what you’re going to be doing. First …

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Having difficulty asking for what you want? Get help from a baby.

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Having difficulty asking for what you want? Get help from a baby. When you were a baby you had no problem making your needs and desires known. You weren’t plagued with self- doubts! What changed? Many of my clients often seek counselling help for depression, relief from anxiety, or counselling support thru grief and loss. As we sift thru the layers, all problems usually have one underlying theme. Even in my work as marriage counsellor …

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Are you getting bigger because you’re making yourself small? Part 1

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Are you getting bigger because you’re making yourself small? Part 1 You might be wondering what I mean with ”making yourself small”? What I’m referring to, is the popular habit of not paying attention to or denying our needs. Especially women are still in large part dealing with the impact of their social cultural conditioning of the caretaking role and what that is supposed to look like. Many of us grew up learning that being …

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Celebrating the divinity and beauty in you…

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Celebrating the divinity and beauty in you… A lot of the pain that I witness in my work is connected to not feeling good enough. It is sad to watch the amount of self-flagellation we engage in because of old tapes running through our heads. I came across this lovely piece of poetry by Donna Henes and would like to offer it in appreciation of the courage and beauty that I am also priviledged to witness every day …

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