mindfulness

The “J factor” almost destroyed them and everything they had built together

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The “J factor” almost destroyed them and everything they had built together Jessica and Milo hadn’t talked for almost 2 weeks. Every time they tried to discuss something, things seemed to escalate into a fight. And lately, every time they had a fight, they were so fed up that they struggled to reconnect.  After their last argument they didn’t speak to each other for over 2 weeks. It had gotten quite ridiculous and they were …

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C O R A: How to get her to STOP NAGGING

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C O R A: How to get her to STOP NAGGING Are you tired of your spouse nagging you? One of the areas couples often seek support in when they come to see me for marriage counselling or relationship therapy is communication. Frequently I hear him complain how he would like her to stop nagging and her share how she would like him to start listening.  Today I want to offer you a four step approach …

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Are you unknowingly deducting happiness from your relationship?

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Are you unknowingly deducting happiness from your relationship? 80% of the couples that come to see me for relationship therapy or marriage counselling want to get back to their happy place. Once we dive a little bit into the couple’s history, I usually hear that things started out well. I’m sure you can relate to that. Most likely when you met your partner you were pretty happy with him or her. If you take a …

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3 fingers: a simple practice to reduce conflict and increase connection with your partner

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3 fingers: a simple practice to reduce conflict and increase connection with your partner One of the most common “complaints” I hear from couples when they make an appointment for couple’s counselling or relationship therapy is how fed up they are  with all the negativity between them. Are you tired of bickering all the time? Are you a nag? Does it feel like conflict erupts out of nowhere… one minute things seem to be fine …

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Is scorekeeping eroding your marriage?

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Is score keeping eroding your marriage? Have you felt hurt, disappointed, under appreciated or rejected in response to something your spouse said or did or didn’t do? And have you then gone ahead and adjusted your own behaviour based on that experience? Take the example of Quinn and Lara: Lara used to cook dinner for Quinn but often he would come home late and her lovingly prepared meal would be cold or overcooked. She interpreted …

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Is your relationship affair “proofed”?

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Is your relationship affair “proofed”? Are you familiar with the major reasons for betrayal in relationship? And do you know how to avoid them? When couples come to see me for affair recovery or marriage and relationship therapy, we usually start with an assessment to identify the strengths of their relationship and where they need support. Check out this list of the six most common causes that have been identified to put your marriage at …

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