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How to shift from frustration and disappointment to hope and connection

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How to shift from frustration and disappointment to hope and connection Are you familiar with the frustrating and discouraging feeling of getting stuck in a negative cycle or downward spiral together? After a while, you don’t know how to shift the pattern to recreate positive energy between each other. Sometimes you have an internal narrative which sounds something like this: ”If only my spouse would do X then I could / would do Y.” Both of …

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Are you unknowingly deducting happiness from your relationship?

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Are you unknowingly deducting happiness from your relationship? 80% of the couples that come to see me for relationship therapy or marriage counselling want to get back to their happy place. Once we dive a little bit into the couple’s history, I usually hear that things started out well. I’m sure you can relate to that. Most likely when you met your partner you were pretty happy with him or her. If you take a …

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How to make Valentine’s day not just ANOTHER painful reminder that you don’t have a partner

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How to make Valentine’s day not just ANOTHER painful reminder that you don’t have a partner Whether you’re feeling the loss of a not-too-distant breakup or you’re sitting in the longing of meeting that special someone,  you might be wishing that Valentine’s Day would have  come and gone already. Who needs a reminder of romantic couple love everywhere when it just brings back painful memories or makes you wonder what’s wrong with you… Why can’t …

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Are you ready for more love in your relationship?

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Are you ready for more love in your relationship? As a marriage therapist and couples counselor, I regularly listen to couples share the pain they experience when they don’t get the love they want. Often, especially in the beginning of couples counselling, there can be a fair amount of focus  on how the pain is the other person’s fault, i.e. the result of what the other person is doing “wrong” or failing to do. Similar …

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Is your relationship affair “proofed”?

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Is your relationship affair “proofed”? Are you familiar with the major reasons for betrayal in relationship? And do you know how to avoid them? When couples come to see me for affair recovery or marriage and relationship therapy, we usually start with an assessment to identify the strengths of their relationship and where they need support. Check out this list of the six most common causes that have been identified to put your marriage at …

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Are these 4 LOVE ERASERS at work in your relationship?

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Are these 4 LOVE ERASERS at work in your relationship? They use different aliases: marriage wreckers, divorce predictors, love erasers…but they all do the same thing. They are the termites that slowly eat away at your marriage. I recently wrote an article on my website www.goddessrevealed.ca which focuses on counselling for anxiety and stress relief. The post is called “How to raise your Happiness Quotient” and discusses the effects of negativity on the brain as …

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