Blog Posts

Use this technique to fight less with your partner

, , ,

Use this technique to fight less with your partner In my couples counselling sessions, a common issue that surfaces is how much time the couple spends bickering or arguing. Upon closer inspection we usually discover that discussions or arguments could be more succinct and clear if each individual was in the habit of regular introspection. Arguments often ensue because Partner A says or does (or doesn’t say or do)  something which triggers Partner B. Often …

Use this technique to fight less with your partner Read More »

Becoming a caregiver and the perfectionism trap

, , , , , , ,

Becoming a caregiver and the perfectionism trap Becoming a caregiver can activate a lot of emotions. Particularly when women become responsible for the care of a parent, I have noticed how easy it is to get caught in the perfectionism trap.   It becomes important to do a perfect job, to be a perfect caregiver…adding an extra layer of stress. I have yet to meet a woman who isn’t familiar, at least to some extent, with …

Becoming a caregiver and the perfectionism trap Read More »

Stressed? Anxious?…Just breathe…

, , , , ,

Stressed? Anxious?…Just breathe… You might wonder how breathing can alleviate stress… it’s not as if you weren’t breathing the last time you were stressed or anxious. But if you think about how you tend to breathe when you’re tense, you will most likely realize that your breathing is quite shallow. I’d like to thank North Vancouver Kinesiologist Raina Croner who facilitates Corrective Exercise Therapy & Personal Health Training at www.inspiringmovement.com (604-760-1205) for generously contributing this …

Stressed? Anxious?…Just breathe… Read More »

Having difficulty asking for what you want? Get help from a baby.

, , , , , , , , , ,

Having difficulty asking for what you want? Get help from a baby. When you were a baby you had no problem making your needs and desires known. You weren’t plagued with self- doubts! What changed? Many of my clients often seek counselling help for depression, relief from anxiety, or counselling support thru grief and loss. As we sift thru the layers, all problems usually have one underlying theme. Even in my work as marriage counsellor …

Having difficulty asking for what you want? Get help from a baby. Read More »

Improve your marriage by learning from President Obama’s reelection campaign

, , , , ,

Improve your marriage by learning from President Obama’s reelection campaign In her Monday’s brief, Arianna Huffington wrote „For Voters to Believe Obama’s Second Term Will Bring About Change, He Needs to Acknowledge What Needs to Change in Himself”. How is that connected to transforming your marriage and love relationship from frustrating or disappointing to the relationship of your dreams? All relationships begin with the honeymoon phase. For most couples this stage lasts approx. 18 months. …

Improve your marriage by learning from President Obama’s reelection campaign Read More »

How Authenticity can help you lose weight

, , , , , , ,

How Authenticity can help you lose weight Many years ago, when I was training in Dance Movement Therapy and Ritual Theater, at some point during the exercises I would find myself overwhelmed with feelings. At the time, that felt scary and “not good enough” and a typical reaction was to tell myself that I had to “get a grip.” How often do you tell someone in your life…yourself perhaps… to get a grip?  To get …

How Authenticity can help you lose weight Read More »