feeling responsible

Why having a pity party with your spouse is good for you

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Why having a pity party with your spouse is good for you Are you aware of  having roles in your marriage or relationship? Does one of you tend to be the complainer and the other one the listener or sympathizer? The minute Laura would walk in the door at the end of the day, she would vent to Sam about her day. Traffic had been bad, her boss at work had been rude, her mother …

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Becoming a caregiver and the perfectionism trap

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Becoming a caregiver and the perfectionism trap Becoming a caregiver can activate a lot of emotions. Particularly when women become responsible for the care of a parent, I have noticed how easy it is to get caught in the perfectionism trap.   It becomes important to do a perfect job, to be a perfect caregiver…adding an extra layer of stress. I have yet to meet a woman who isn’t familiar, at least to some extent, with …

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Do you yearn for freedom and Autonomy?

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Do you yearn for freedom and Autonomy? Are you getting bigger because you’re keeping yourself small Part 2 Are you busy making sure everyone around you is happy, i.e. do you spend your life pleasing others? Do the needs of those dearest and nearest to your heart control what your day looks like? Do you feel like you can never do what YOU want? Part 1 of this series discussed how assuming responsibility for the …

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Are you getting bigger because you’re making yourself small? Part 1

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Are you getting bigger because you’re making yourself small? Part 1 You might be wondering what I mean with ”making yourself small”? What I’m referring to, is the popular habit of not paying attention to or denying our needs. Especially women are still in large part dealing with the impact of their social cultural conditioning of the caretaking role and what that is supposed to look like. Many of us grew up learning that being …

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