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3 fingers: a simple practice to reduce conflict and increase connection with your partner

3 fingers: a simple practice to reduce conflict and increase connection with your partner One of the most common “complaints” I hear from couples when they make an appointment for couple’s counselling or relationship therapy is how fed up they are  with all the negativity between them. Are you tired of bickering all the time? […]

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Are you stressed and feeling in constant crisis mode?

Are you stressed and feeling in constant crisis mode? Do you spend a lot of time worrying about things that are out of your control? Do you agonize over doing it just right so you can avoid conflict of disappointing others?  Perhaps you experience “crises” similar to the following examples: Your adult daughter calls you

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Use this practice to enjoy a more satisfying sex life with your partner

Use this practice to enjoy a more satisfying sex life with your partner As a somatic psychotherapist and marriage counsellor I offer intimacy coaching to couples who would like to deepen their intimate connection and want to share a more satisfying sex life. The number one practice and first, very simple step towards a more

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Intimacy Coaching: 10 minutes to a deeper Intimate Connection

Intimacy Coaching: 10 minutes to a deeper Intimate Connection In my Burnaby marriage therapy office, I often hear couples talk about their desire for a deeper intimate connection. Perhaps you can relate to this scenario: Sex is mostly good or okay, but not as great as it could be, because of time constraints and scheduling

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Becoming a caregiver and the perfectionism trap

Becoming a caregiver and the perfectionism trap Becoming a caregiver can activate a lot of emotions. Particularly when women become responsible for the care of a parent, I have noticed how easy it is to get caught in the perfectionism trap.   It becomes important to do a perfect job, to be a perfect caregiver…adding an

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Stressed? Anxious?…Just breathe…

Stressed? Anxious?…Just breathe… You might wonder how breathing can alleviate stress… it’s not as if you weren’t breathing the last time you were stressed or anxious. But if you think about how you tend to breathe when you’re tense, you will most likely realize that your breathing is quite shallow. I’d like to thank North

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Depression, anxiety and the stock market

Depression, anxiety and the stock market We live in financially unstable times. If you have invested in the stock market you probably feel somewhat powerless regarding the outcome of your investments. You can only hope that, as usual, with time things will stabilize again. Your losses will recuperate and become profits. When you struggle with

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Depression… when the coin has stopped spinning and what to do about it

Depression… when the coin has stopped spinning and what to do about it If you have ever struggled with depression you can probably relate to feeling stuck and/or overwhelmed. When I am counselling clients for depression, most often in our sessions we address a combination of three mind states: Grief and loss: – trying to

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