intimacy coaching

How to shift back to YES in the bedroom

How to shift back to YES in the bedroom As a marriage counsellor and sex therapist I often hear couples talk about one partner having less desire for intimacy. Once upon a time everything was fine, but today there seems to be a reluctance to initiate and often the answer is No. Would you agree […]

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Are you unknowingly deducting happiness from your relationship?

Are you unknowingly deducting happiness from your relationship? 80% of the couples that come to see me for relationship therapy or marriage counselling want to get back to their happy place. Once we dive a little bit into the couple’s history, I usually hear that things started out well. I’m sure you can relate to

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How to make Valentine’s day not just ANOTHER painful reminder that you don’t have a partner

How to make Valentine’s day not just ANOTHER painful reminder that you don’t have a partner Whether you’re feeling the loss of a not-too-distant breakup or you’re sitting in the longing of meeting that special someone,  you might be wishing that Valentine’s Day would have  come and gone already. Who needs a reminder of romantic

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When lovemaking feels like doing dishes in the dark OR The Art of Giving and Receiving Feedback in the Bedroom

When lovemaking feels like doing dishes in the dark OR The Art of Giving and Receiving Feedback in the Bedroom Imagine what it would feel like to do the dishes in the dark. You would sort of know what you’re doing because  you’re familiar with the layout of your kitchen sink  and the dish soap.

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Is scorekeeping eroding your marriage?

Is score keeping eroding your marriage? Have you felt hurt, disappointed, under appreciated or rejected in response to something your spouse said or did or didn’t do? And have you then gone ahead and adjusted your own behaviour based on that experience? Take the example of Quinn and Lara: Lara used to cook dinner for

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Improve your happiness quotient by learning this mantra

Improve your happiness quotient by learning this mantra Do you worry about your loved ones  being disappointed, or feeling bad in some shape or form? Do try to save your children from feeling/experiencing pain and disappointment in life? Do you work hard to manage your loved one’s feelings so he or she doesn’t  get sick,

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Is your relationship affair “proofed”?

Is your relationship affair “proofed”? Are you familiar with the major reasons for betrayal in relationship? And do you know how to avoid them? When couples come to see me for affair recovery or marriage and relationship therapy, we usually start with an assessment to identify the strengths of their relationship and where they need

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Is your sex life falling apart because of your libido?

Is your Sex Life falling apart because of your Libido? A common complaint couples share with me in my role  me as Burnaby relationship counsellor specializing in sex therapy and marriage counseling is a loss in libido. Usually these are long-term partners who are unhappy about the steady decline of passion and fire in their

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Do you know the number 1 secret to a fulfilling long-term relationship?

Do you know the number 1 secret to a fulfilling long-term relationship? You may be surprised if I told you that you would have received an answer to this question at my Hot Yoga class the other day. While several of us were struggling with a pose, the instructor repeated  “The answer lies in the

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