How to shift back to YES in the bedroom As a marriage counsellor and sex therapist I often hear couples talk about one partner having less desire for intimacy. Once upon a time everything was fine, but today there seems to be a reluctance to initiate and often the answer is No. Would you agree that for many, but especially for women, a “yes” is impacted by how emotionally connected you are feeling? An emotional …
Are you unknowingly deducting happiness from your relationship? 80% of the couples that come to see me for relationship therapy or marriage counselling want to get back to their happy place. Once we dive a little bit into the couple’s history, I usually hear that things started out well. I’m sure you can relate to that. Most likely when you met your partner you were pretty happy with him or her. If you take a …
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How to make Valentine’s day not just ANOTHER painful reminder that you don’t have a partner Whether you’re feeling the loss of a not-too-distant breakup or you’re sitting in the longing of meeting that special someone, you might be wishing that Valentine’s Day would have come and gone already. Who needs a reminder of romantic couple love everywhere when it just brings back painful memories or makes you wonder what’s wrong with you… Why can’t …
When lovemaking feels like doing dishes in the dark OR The Art of Giving and Receiving Feedback in the Bedroom Imagine what it would feel like to do the dishes in the dark. You would sort of know what you’re doing because you’re familiar with the layout of your kitchen sink and the dish soap. But you probably wouldn’t be feeling very confident about the results. If your goal was to have satisfyingly clean dishes, …
Is score keeping eroding your marriage? Have you felt hurt, disappointed, under appreciated or rejected in response to something your spouse said or did or didn’t do? And have you then gone ahead and adjusted your own behaviour based on that experience? Take the example of Quinn and Lara: Lara used to cook dinner for Quinn but often he would come home late and her lovingly prepared meal would be cold or overcooked. She interpreted …
Improve your happiness quotient by learning this mantra Do you worry about your loved ones being disappointed, or feeling bad in some shape or form? Do try to save your children from feeling/experiencing pain and disappointment in life? Do you work hard to manage your loved one’s feelings so he or she doesn’t get sick, relapse, become depressed again, get triggered into some other painful place? Are you the super attentive and kind friend always …
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