Sex Therapy

The “J factor” almost destroyed them and everything they had built together

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The “J factor” almost destroyed them and everything they had built together Jessica and Milo hadn’t talked for almost 2 weeks. Every time they tried to discuss something, things seemed to escalate into a fight. And lately, every time they had a fight, they were so fed up that they struggled to reconnect.  After their last argument they didn’t speak to each other for over 2 weeks. It had gotten quite ridiculous and they were …

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How to shift back to YES in the bedroom

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How to shift back to YES in the bedroom As a marriage counsellor and sex therapist I often hear couples talk about one partner having less desire for intimacy. Once upon a time everything was fine, but today there seems to be a reluctance to initiate and often the answer is No. Would you agree that for  many, but especially for women,  a “yes” is impacted by how emotionally connected you are feeling?  An emotional …

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When lovemaking feels like doing dishes in the dark OR The Art of Giving and Receiving Feedback in the Bedroom

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When lovemaking feels like doing dishes in the dark OR The Art of Giving and Receiving Feedback in the Bedroom Imagine what it would feel like to do the dishes in the dark. You would sort of know what you’re doing because  you’re familiar with the layout of your kitchen sink  and the dish soap. But you probably wouldn’t be feeling very confident about the results.  If your goal was to have  satisfyingly clean dishes,  …

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Is your sex life falling apart because of your libido?

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Is your Sex Life falling apart because of your Libido? A common complaint couples share with me in my role  me as Burnaby relationship counsellor specializing in sex therapy and marriage counseling is a loss in libido. Usually these are long-term partners who are unhappy about the steady decline of passion and fire in their lovemaking. Often there is a higher desire partner and a lower desire partner and the self-diagnosis is a loss of …

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Are these 4 LOVE ERASERS at work in your relationship?

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Are these 4 LOVE ERASERS at work in your relationship? They use different aliases: marriage wreckers, divorce predictors, love erasers…but they all do the same thing. They are the termites that slowly eat away at your marriage. I recently wrote an article on my website www.goddessrevealed.ca which focuses on counselling for anxiety and stress relief. The post is called “How to raise your Happiness Quotient” and discusses the effects of negativity on the brain as …

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“Pillow Talk” Part 2: addressing orgasm difficulties

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“Pillow Talk” Part 2: addressing orgasm difficulties Have you ever faked an orgasm? If yes, please take a moment and acknowledge to yourself why you answered the famous question “Did you come?” with a lie. As a sex therapist and relationship counsellor I help couples address this questions and the potential surrounding anxieties in a way that is nurturing and supportive rather than anxiety provoking and frustrating. When the question “Did you come?” turns into …

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