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Use this practice to enjoy a more satisfying sex life with your partner

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Use this practice to enjoy a more satisfying sex life with your partner As a somatic psychotherapist and marriage counsellor I offer intimacy coaching to couples who would like to deepen their intimate connection and want to share a more satisfying sex life. The number one practice and first, very simple step towards a more fulfilling sex life is body mind awareness. In a world that is incredibly fast-paced and almost everybody’s day is tightly …

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What should be on the top of your to-do list to make your marriage flourish?

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What should be on the top of your to-do list to make your marriage flourish? Over the years of offering marriage counseling to couples, I’ve noticed that there are some recurring stories or themes that propel individuals to seek out couples counseling.   One such theme is “I’m not getting a lot out of our marriage/relationship anymore.” This statement is often accompanied with a sense of bewilderment, sadness or resignation. There is a sense of …

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How to stop having certain arguments over and over again…

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How to stop having certain arguments over and over again… Do you struggle to understand your partner at times? Maybe when you met and were freshly in love, the fact that you were different was exciting and interesting. But when the novelty wears off, it’s easy to move from admiring a particular trait to finding it irritating or “wrong.” This can then become a place where you don’t see eye to eye, your frustrations rub …

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Intimacy Coaching: 10 minutes to a deeper Intimate Connection

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Intimacy Coaching: 10 minutes to a deeper Intimate Connection In my Burnaby marriage therapy office, I often hear couples talk about their desire for a deeper intimate connection. Perhaps you can relate to this scenario: Sex is mostly good or okay, but not as great as it could be, because of time constraints and scheduling problems, lack of connection or underlying conflict. After years of working as a couples counsellor and somatic therapist, and from …

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Why having a pity party with your spouse is good for you

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Why having a pity party with your spouse is good for you Are you aware of  having roles in your marriage or relationship? Does one of you tend to be the complainer and the other one the listener or sympathizer? The minute Laura would walk in the door at the end of the day, she would vent to Sam about her day. Traffic had been bad, her boss at work had been rude, her mother …

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Couples argue less without this question / habit

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Couples argue less without this question / habit When I am couples counselling I often hear couples complain that they end up in an argument with their spouse while trying to express how they feel about something. Usually this happens because one partner uses questions to indirectly get a message across rather than speaking directly about what is going on. Take a look at this video to discover how eliminating the “Why” question can make …

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