Lucinda

When lovemaking feels like doing dishes in the dark OR The Art of Giving and Receiving Feedback in the Bedroom

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When lovemaking feels like doing dishes in the dark OR The Art of Giving and Receiving Feedback in the Bedroom Imagine what it would feel like to do the dishes in the dark. You would sort of know what you’re doing because  you’re familiar with the layout of your kitchen sink  and the dish soap. But you probably wouldn’t be feeling very confident about the results.  If your goal was to have  satisfyingly clean dishes,  …

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Are you ready for more love in your relationship?

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Are you ready for more love in your relationship? As a marriage therapist and couples counselor, I regularly listen to couples share the pain they experience when they don’t get the love they want. Often, especially in the beginning of couples counselling, there can be a fair amount of focus  on how the pain is the other person’s fault, i.e. the result of what the other person is doing “wrong” or failing to do. Similar …

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Is scorekeeping eroding your marriage?

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Is score keeping eroding your marriage? Have you felt hurt, disappointed, under appreciated or rejected in response to something your spouse said or did or didn’t do? And have you then gone ahead and adjusted your own behaviour based on that experience? Take the example of Quinn and Lara: Lara used to cook dinner for Quinn but often he would come home late and her lovingly prepared meal would be cold or overcooked. She interpreted …

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Improve your happiness quotient by learning this mantra

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Improve your happiness quotient by learning this mantra Do you worry about your loved ones  being disappointed, or feeling bad in some shape or form? Do try to save your children from feeling/experiencing pain and disappointment in life? Do you work hard to manage your loved one’s feelings so he or she doesn’t  get sick, relapse, become depressed again, get triggered into some other painful place? Are you the super attentive and kind friend always …

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Relationship Advice Tuesday

Relationship Advice Tuesday Every Tuesday you can post a question, message me or email me at info@positivelifechanges.ca with any question concerning Intimacy, dating, relationships with in-laws or family or other challenges you might be facing for free Relationship Advice. I will respond to you privately or create a blog post that addresses your question.   I look forward to connecting with you 🙂 Ina

Is your relationship affair “proofed”?

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Is your relationship affair “proofed”? Are you familiar with the major reasons for betrayal in relationship? And do you know how to avoid them? When couples come to see me for affair recovery or marriage and relationship therapy, we usually start with an assessment to identify the strengths of their relationship and where they need support. Check out this list of the six most common causes that have been identified to put your marriage at …

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