Relationship Therapy

Has Addiction damaged your self-esteem?

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Has Addiction damaged your self-esteem? It doesn’t matter whether you love someone who is struggling with Addiction or if you are an Addict, part of the emotional roller coaster of living with Addiction is the impact it has on your self-esteem. As an Addictions Counsellor and Marriage therapist I often help couples navigate the journey of recovery from co-depency and other addiction to rebuilding trust and self-esteem. Can you relate to Hank and Renée? When …

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When lovemaking feels like doing dishes in the dark OR The Art of Giving and Receiving Feedback in the Bedroom

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When lovemaking feels like doing dishes in the dark OR The Art of Giving and Receiving Feedback in the Bedroom Imagine what it would feel like to do the dishes in the dark. You would sort of know what you’re doing because  you’re familiar with the layout of your kitchen sink  and the dish soap. But you probably wouldn’t be feeling very confident about the results.  If your goal was to have  satisfyingly clean dishes,  …

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Is scorekeeping eroding your marriage?

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Is score keeping eroding your marriage? Have you felt hurt, disappointed, under appreciated or rejected in response to something your spouse said or did or didn’t do? And have you then gone ahead and adjusted your own behaviour based on that experience? Take the example of Quinn and Lara: Lara used to cook dinner for Quinn but often he would come home late and her lovingly prepared meal would be cold or overcooked. She interpreted …

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Is your relationship affair “proofed”?

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Is your relationship affair “proofed”? Are you familiar with the major reasons for betrayal in relationship? And do you know how to avoid them? When couples come to see me for affair recovery or marriage and relationship therapy, we usually start with an assessment to identify the strengths of their relationship and where they need support. Check out this list of the six most common causes that have been identified to put your marriage at …

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Is your sex life falling apart because of your libido?

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Is your Sex Life falling apart because of your Libido? A common complaint couples share with me in my role  me as Burnaby relationship counsellor specializing in sex therapy and marriage counseling is a loss in libido. Usually these are long-term partners who are unhappy about the steady decline of passion and fire in their lovemaking. Often there is a higher desire partner and a lower desire partner and the self-diagnosis is a loss of …

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Is Addiction Relapse Prevention part of your Wedding Preparations?

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Is Addiction Relapse Prevention part of your Wedding Preparations? Are you worried your wedding plans might lead to an addiction relapse? As a couple’s therapist and addiction counsellor who specializes and is passionate about premarital counseling, it is my job to help couples make wise choices in their wedding planning if one partner is also in recovery. The lasting ripple effect of Addiction can sometimes come as a surprise, especially when the individual is sober …

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