communication tips

How to stop having certain arguments over and over again…

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How to stop having certain arguments over and over again… Do you struggle to understand your partner at times? Maybe when you met and were freshly in love, the fact that you were different was exciting and interesting. But when the novelty wears off, it’s easy to move from admiring a particular trait to finding it irritating or “wrong.” This can then become a place where you don’t see eye to eye, your frustrations rub …

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Why having a pity party with your spouse is good for you

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Why having a pity party with your spouse is good for you Are you aware of  having roles in your marriage or relationship? Does one of you tend to be the complainer and the other one the listener or sympathizer? The minute Laura would walk in the door at the end of the day, she would vent to Sam about her day. Traffic had been bad, her boss at work had been rude, her mother …

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A simple yet highly effective tool for affair prevention

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A simple yet highly effective tool for affair prevention Do you ever feel like you’re more open with your friends about how you feel, what you’re frustrated about and what’s going on for you these days than with your spouse? Feeling disconnected or lonely even though you have a partner is not uncommon and can be the first step into an emotional or physical affair with someone else. Many couples complain that they feel disconnected …

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Do you know these 2 essential ingredients for relationship thrival?

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Do you know these 2 essential ingredients for relationship thrival? One of the most basic needs that humans  have is to be heard and seen. Being heard and seen by someone  you love creates joy and well-being. What do I mean when I talk about hearing and seeing someone? I’m talking about attunement and boundaries. When I start working with new counselling clients, our first session is always a boundary session. We explore how boundaries …

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Couples argue less without this question / habit

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Couples argue less without this question / habit When I am couples counselling I often hear couples complain that they end up in an argument with their spouse while trying to express how they feel about something. Usually this happens because one partner uses questions to indirectly get a message across rather than speaking directly about what is going on. Take a look at this video to discover how eliminating the “Why” question can make …

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