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Why having a pity party with your spouse is good for you

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Why having a pity party with your spouse is good for you Are you aware of  having roles in your marriage or relationship? Does one of you tend to be the complainer and the other one the listener or sympathizer? The minute Laura would walk in the door at the end of the day, she would vent to Sam about her day. Traffic had been bad, her boss at work had been rude, her mother …

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A simple yet highly effective tool for affair prevention

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A simple yet highly effective tool for affair prevention Do you ever feel like you’re more open with your friends about how you feel, what you’re frustrated about and what’s going on for you these days than with your spouse? Feeling disconnected or lonely even though you have a partner is not uncommon and can be the first step into an emotional or physical affair with someone else. Many couples complain that they feel disconnected …

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Do you know these 2 essential ingredients for relationship thrival?

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Do you know these 2 essential ingredients for relationship thrival? One of the most basic needs that humans  have is to be heard and seen. Being heard and seen by someone  you love creates joy and well-being. What do I mean when I talk about hearing and seeing someone? I’m talking about attunement and boundaries. When I start working with new counselling clients, our first session is always a boundary session. We explore how boundaries …

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Becoming a caregiver and the perfectionism trap

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Becoming a caregiver and the perfectionism trap Becoming a caregiver can activate a lot of emotions. Particularly when women become responsible for the care of a parent, I have noticed how easy it is to get caught in the perfectionism trap.   It becomes important to do a perfect job, to be a perfect caregiver…adding an extra layer of stress. I have yet to meet a woman who isn’t familiar, at least to some extent, with …

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