relationship joy

Are you ready for more love in your relationship?

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Are you ready for more love in your relationship? As a marriage therapist and couples counselor, I regularly listen to couples share the pain they experience when they don’t get the love they want. Often, especially in the beginning of couples counselling, there can be a fair amount of focus  on how the pain is the other person’s fault, i.e. the result of what the other person is doing “wrong” or failing to do. Similar …

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Is scorekeeping eroding your marriage?

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Is score keeping eroding your marriage? Have you felt hurt, disappointed, under appreciated or rejected in response to something your spouse said or did or didn’t do? And have you then gone ahead and adjusted your own behaviour based on that experience? Take the example of Quinn and Lara: Lara used to cook dinner for Quinn but often he would come home late and her lovingly prepared meal would be cold or overcooked. She interpreted …

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Is your relationship affair “proofed”?

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Is your relationship affair “proofed”? Are you familiar with the major reasons for betrayal in relationship? And do you know how to avoid them? When couples come to see me for affair recovery or marriage and relationship therapy, we usually start with an assessment to identify the strengths of their relationship and where they need support. Check out this list of the six most common causes that have been identified to put your marriage at …

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Is your sex life falling apart because of your libido?

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Is your Sex Life falling apart because of your Libido? A common complaint couples share with me in my role  me as Burnaby relationship counsellor specializing in sex therapy and marriage counseling is a loss in libido. Usually these are long-term partners who are unhappy about the steady decline of passion and fire in their lovemaking. Often there is a higher desire partner and a lower desire partner and the self-diagnosis is a loss of …

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Why understanding Mr. Duffy can save your marriage

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Why understanding Mr. Duffy can save your marriage or How to stop escalating relationship conflicts. When couples contact me for relationship counselling and marriage therapy, I invite them to fill out a personal info form where they are asked to name their short and long term goals for couple’s counselling. 80% of couples that seek out my services as a marriage and family therapist want to change how they communicate. More specifically they want to …

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Are these 4 LOVE ERASERS at work in your relationship?

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Are these 4 LOVE ERASERS at work in your relationship? They use different aliases: marriage wreckers, divorce predictors, love erasers…but they all do the same thing. They are the termites that slowly eat away at your marriage. I recently wrote an article on my website www.goddessrevealed.ca which focuses on counselling for anxiety and stress relief. The post is called “How to raise your Happiness Quotient” and discusses the effects of negativity on the brain as …

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