Are you getting bigger because you’re making yourself small? Part 1

- If you have an internal voice in your head telling you that it is your job to take care of others…because if you don’t do it… it won’t get done…or they will be angry or disappointed… STOP LISTENING now! This voice is not your friend. It is an outdated echo of the past.
- To help you counter the voice that is telling you it is your job to make sure others are happy, memorize this mantra: “When I make the wellbeing of others my responsibility, when I try to change how they feel, no matter how positive my intention, it’s invasive and cripples them. This behavior undermines those I try to “fix” as well as myself.”
- In the beginning you might be plagued with feelings of guilt or anxiety. This mantra will help: “I am not selfish when I think of myself or act in my own behalf. I have a right to my own body voice, my own body, to know what I think and want and to speak up and ask for it.”
- Breathe. When you notice yourself looking for food to change how you feel, stop and breathe. Take 3 breaths into your belly and connect with what you are really wanting or needing in this moment.