How to shift back to YES in the bedroom

How to shift back to YES in the bedroom As a marriage counsellor and sex therapist I often hear couples talk about one partner having less desire for intimacy. Once upon a time everything was fine, but today there seems to be a reluctance to initiate and often the answer is No. Would you agree that for  many, but especially for women,  a “yes” is impacted by how emotionally connected you are feeling?  An emotional …

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Are you unknowingly deducting happiness from your relationship?

Are you unknowingly deducting happiness from your relationship? 80% of the couples that come to see me for relationship therapy or marriage counselling want to get back to their happy place. Once we dive a little bit into the couple’s history, I usually hear that things started out well. I’m sure you can relate to that. Most likely when you met your partner you were pretty happy with him or her. If you take a …

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3 fingers: a simple practice to reduce conflict and increase connection with your partner

3 fingers: a simple practice to reduce conflict and increase connection with your partner One of the most common “complaints” I hear from couples when they make an appointment for couple’s counselling or relationship therapy is how fed up they are  with all the negativity between them. Are you tired of bickering all the time? Are you a nag? Does it feel like conflict erupts out of nowhere… one minute things seem to be fine …

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How to make Valentine’s day not just ANOTHER painful reminder that you don’t have a partner

How to make Valentine’s day not just ANOTHER painful reminder that you don’t have a partner Whether you’re feeling the loss of a not-too-distant breakup or you’re sitting in the longing of meeting that special someone,  you might be wishing that Valentine’s Day would have  come and gone already. Who needs a reminder of romantic couple love everywhere when it just brings back painful memories or makes you wonder what’s wrong with you… Why can’t …

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Has Addiction damaged your self-esteem?

Has Addiction damaged your self-esteem? It doesn’t matter whether you love someone who is struggling with Addiction or if you are an Addict, part of the emotional roller coaster of living with Addiction is the impact it has on your self-esteem. As an Addictions Counsellor and Marriage therapist I often help couples navigate the journey of recovery from co-depency and other addiction to rebuilding trust and self-esteem. Can you relate to Hank and Renée? When …

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Are you stressed and feeling in constant crisis mode?

Are you stressed and feeling in constant crisis mode? Do you spend a lot of time worrying about things that are out of your control? Do you agonize over doing it just right so you can avoid conflict of disappointing others?  Perhaps you experience “crises” similar to the following examples: Your adult daughter calls you frantically from work. This is her first day at the new job and she was supposed to bring various signed …

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